The human psyche is designed to be compassionate: we forget situations and emotions that are too unpleasant and painful to live normally. However, normal doesn't mean happy. Behind a high fence, it's hard to see the beauty of the world and difficult to meet new people. Using real-life examples, Danish psychotherapist Ilse Sand explains how various psychological defenses don't help, but rather hinder us from living a full life, and how to overcome them. After reading this book, you'll understand how what you were told in childhood and adolescence can influence your actions and decisions today. Perhaps you'll understand the hidden reasons for your experiences and finally allow your family and friends to become truly close and intimate. This book, of course, won't replace a psychologist, but it will help you take a step toward meeting people and your own happiness.