In this book, Nadezhda Telepova, a psychologist and teacher, addresses a topic that has become extremely popular today: the influence of parents on our difficulties and failures in life. Many psychologists often blame parents for everything that goes wrong in our lives: failed relationships, low self-esteem, financial setbacks. However, Nadezhda offers a more constructive and effective approach to solving these problems. Instead of expensive and often futile therapy based on endless blaming of parents, the author has developed a forgiveness technique that helps resolve resentments and restore warm relationships with parents. This book offers a step-by-step method that will help you sort out your emotions, get out of the dead end of resentment and turn complaints into gratitude.

With the help of the author's method you will:
• Find that very 'golden mean' when you do not accumulate pain inside, and sort out relationships, and do not harm yourself.
• Learn to stay 'afloat' and improve your emotional background in any circumstances.
• Look into the experiences of real people and witness the transformation of their lives.

QUOTES:

Monetizing childhood trauma is a business without competition.

The task of a specialist is to cultivate in you a 'good internal image of a mother' instead of the 'bad' one with which you are so unlucky.

There are nonsense translators in psychology. It is important to recognize them and filter out their teachings, otherwise it will be a disaster for you and for the people who turn to you for help.

Digging up childhood traumas in search of someone to blame for your “loser’s life”, indulging your Ego, cherishing your “inner child” with the belief that it is because of your “mother figure” or because of “individually you were not given enough paternal attention” is the most stupid and hopeless thing you can do.

“Alive” does not mean “good” or “harmonious”; living relationships can be conflictual, aggressive, and abusive.

The past no longer exists, the future does not yet exist, but there is the present, which for you represents a powerful resource for analysis and the necessary transformation of your decisions for constructive steps in the future.

The fact is that the negotiating table presupposes a conversation between people of equal status. But it is impossible to equalize parents and children in status.

Because the life of each of us is not only and not so much the result of a program laid down by parents or ancestral genes. A person's life and the person themselves directly depend, first and foremost, on the values ​​​​they choose.